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The Enough Effect Blog
By Abbie Tabbilos
Above all, I am a passionate storyteller.
Here, you will find my stories – everything from what I’ve learned working daily to master living with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder to my journey learning how to have self-compassion and honor my emotions.
It's time to discover the strength you have to create a peaceful, fulfilling life and a happier, healthier relationship with yourself – no matter what you're up against.

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For When You Mourn Who You Were Before Scrupulosity OCD
Church feels overwhelming. You don’t feel like you can participate in your religion that same way you used to. You’re not sure how to get back to who you used to be before you entered Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) treatment. I’ve learned that a lot of these feelings stem from a sense of mourning your past religious experiences. And it’s interesting, because this can be the case even when the individual is doing much better now than they were when they were

abbietabbilos
Dec 10, 20253 min read


How Scrupulosity OCD Affects Your Thanksgiving Experience
You might be wondering what on earth Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder has to do with Thanksgiving. In fact, at first glance, it might not appear to have anything to do with it! However, do you tend to struggle on holidays and not know why? If so, OCD may be playing a bigger role than you might think. How OCD could impact your holiday experience From as early as I can remember, during every single family gathering or holiday celebration, I got a feeling that I eventu

abbietabbilos
Nov 26, 20252 min read


The Problem With Believing “I Can’t Do This Without God”
One of the biggest hyperfixations I had when my Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) was at my peak was chapter seven of a book called Preach My Gospel. For those who are not/never have been members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, this book is most commonly used for members who are preparing to become missionaries. However, it can also be used by church members in general to deepen their understanding of the gospel. The chapter I focused so mu

abbietabbilos
Nov 13, 20252 min read


People Admired Me for Having Scrupulosity OCD
By now you know that Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder perpetuates problematic behaviors that wreak havoc on the life of the sufferer (and sometimes the lives of the people who love them). However, from the outside and on the surface, the very behaviors that are causing so much pain can actually appear to be admired by others. This can be quite confusing for Scrupulosity OCD sufferers because although they may be aware that their behaviors are causing them distress

abbietabbilos
Nov 5, 20253 min read


Why Your Self-Love Shouldn’t Be Tied to Your Religion
When I was on a walk one windy afternoon, I came to some troubling realizations. First, I only respected myself when I felt I was being obedient. Second, I struggled to have self-compassion when I made a mistake. Third, and ultimately, if I didn’t think I was being righteous, I couldn’t love myself. Does that sound familiar? If so, this blog is for you. Religious-based self-love When your self-love is rooted in your religious beliefs, that means it is conditional upon things

abbietabbilos
Oct 29, 20253 min read


How Do You Know You’ve Been Forgiven by God if You Have Scrupulosity OCD?
Even people who don’t have Scrupulosity Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) wonder how they can know when they’ve truly been forgiven by God for their sins. They may read scripture passages to help them answer the question, or pray and ask God for reassurance that they have been forgiven. So why should those with Scrupulosity OCD avoid seeking an answer to this question? The answer is simple: it's the perfect trap for getting stuck in the OCD cycle. In fact, any question tha

abbietabbilos
Oct 22, 20253 min read


ERP for Scrupulosity OCD Can Feel Like a Sin
Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) is one of the most popular treatment modals for Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). It involves...

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Aug 6, 20253 min read


3 Ways You Can Support a Loved One with Scrupulosity OCD
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) affects so many more people than just the person suffering from the disorder. In fact, it can cause...

abbietabbilos
Jul 30, 20253 min read


Feelings Are Not Facts – Especially When You Have OCD
When I was young, I heard someone at church say, “If you stay close to Jesus, you will always be happy no matter what happens to you.”...

abbietabbilos
Jul 10, 20253 min read


Is It the Spirit or OCD?
I’m going to give you two scenarios, and I want you to decide which experience details something happening with Scrupulosity...

abbietabbilos
Jul 3, 20254 min read


Is Worry a Sin? How People With Scrupulosity OCD Should View It
Worry is not a topic that religion has been silent about. In fact, there are many scriptures talking about how worry is evidence of a...

abbietabbilos
Jun 25, 20253 min read


Avoiding Fear-Based Obedience in Scrupulosity OCD
One of the main components of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is fear. Whether it’s the fear of getting others sick, not being in the...

abbietabbilos
Jun 19, 20252 min read


Managing Intrusive Thoughts
Imagine going about your everyday life – working, cooking, cleaning, taking care of your family, etc. – while dealing with constant,...

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Jun 12, 20253 min read


"I Blame My Church for My Scrupulosity OCD"
People with Contamination Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) are unlikely to develop difficult feelings towards soap distribution...

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May 21, 20253 min read


Who Am I Without OCD?
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is really good at making a person question everything about who they are. For example, Scrupulosity...

abbietabbilos
Apr 30, 20253 min read


How to Recover from OCD When You're Mentally and Emotionally Exhausted
Living with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is kind of like playing an extremely high-stakes game of whack-a-mole in your mind –...

abbietabbilos
Apr 16, 20252 min read


How to Have Self Compassion When It Feels Impossible
Picture this: you are standing in a dirt field, holding a shovel. Day after day, your position changes: you either start to dig yourself...

abbietabbilos
Apr 2, 20254 min read


Your Life Might Not be Better Without Mental Illness
Do any of these statements sound familiar? “My life would be so much better if I didn’t have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD).” Or, “I...

abbietabbilos
Mar 26, 20252 min read


Overcoming the Fear of Feeling Anxious
In the book “Comfortable with Uncertainty” by Pema Chödrön , there is a quote that says, “”Let fear soften you, not harden you into...

abbietabbilos
Mar 5, 20253 min read


Utilizing Wise Mind for Emotional Regulation
Have you ever been in a situation where it felt like your emotions completely took over and made it hard for you to think clearly? At...

abbietabbilos
Feb 27, 20254 min read
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